I choose it because I know what it feels like to lose it. For a long time.
I’ve recently come out of a 7 year confidence slump, and it was hard as fuck to pull out of it. I questioned myself at every step and I never really felt like I was up to the task of even simple interactions with other people in my life.
Sometimes, the back of my brain is in control. The part of my brain I call “the lizard brain.”
By the time your work is perfect, it will have become irrelevant.
Make it up. Make it real. Make it recur.
The lack of confidence in my own role and in my own abilities pushed me into this place of scarcity.
My Friday thoughts on what I'm listening to, reading, enjoying, watching, or just thinking about. The content changes weekly but my funny ass sense of humor doesn't. Read it or continue being a loser. I don't care.
I actually need to stop repeating it. Because today I realized that all that internal (and even more external) chatter is creating a block for me.
The single most important aspect a leader brings to important work is that she helps us understand how we should talk about it.
I always preface the answer to “where did you get the name Final 5?” with some version of “ok, this is really nerdy.” But the basis for the origin story has caught on in the mainstream over the past 3 or 4 years, going from a subculture phenomenon to a story that people often finish for me.
Politicians are completely selfish, and if we the public set a better example, we can use that to our favor.
The list of things I don’t like about (most) politicians is long and tiresome. But ya know one great thing about politicians? THEY BLOW LIKE THE WIND TO PUBLIC FAVOR.
I don’t give a shit about what you and I DON’T agree on. Let’s start discussing things we DO agree on and work from that place. Our leaders will follow.
I’ll start: I believe high quality public educational schooling is not only possible, but is an absolute necessity. I also believe our leaders need to set politics aside and figure out how we as a community can create quality education for every student in our country.
Regardless of political stance, everyone can agree with that, right? What else can we agree on?
Consider this my letter of resignation.
It may seem small to you, and in the grand scheme of the world and the problems within it, I agree it is petty. But I HATE coming up with email subjects. I honestly feel stress when I have to come up with the right email subject for the occasion. If only I had an email subject guy like Obama has a clothing guy, I'd let someone else do my dirty work. But I don't.
Back in the day the email subject served a purpose. When it was our only form of communication, we knew the importance of letting people know why we’re filling up their inbox and the importance of our communique. Many times the email was something received only a few times per day, when a subject line was important to let the receiver know “hey bitch! This email’s important!”
I received my first email address in 1992, when I signed up for aol. But you and I both know I was only on AOL so I could bang dem message boards. The first email I gave serious attention to was the one I was given at MSU my freshman year (email@example.com). I remember sitting in class and watching a professor bumble his way through setting up an email, as a tutoring of sorts. Back then, jokes and early forms of internet humor were sent via email (I sound like a fucking dinosaur here). Seriously, there was some weird shit out there. But some funny stuff too. There was always that dude on your floor who sent the dirty email stories to everyone. Those were weird days.
Up until 10 or even 5 years ago, it was important to know that the creepy guy down the hall who is getting his degree in massage therapy, isn’t sending you some strange fetish email story.
But that’s so old school now! And yet we still continue, “Regarding Friday’s Meeting”ing our email like a bunch of suckers. We live in an information on demand world. Twitter, Texting, Snapchat, Slack, these things have proven to the world that as long as it’s coming from a trusted source, there’s no need to be warning or giving anyone a heads up on exactly what the email that they’ll be reading in less than 5 seconds is about.
So, I’m quitting the email subject game. If you’re with me, share this with someone and let’s right this ship. I love emails, I like getting them, I like sending them. It’s a form of communication that doesn’t make me feel like I have to get it all out in 20 words. But it needs to catch up a bit if it’s going to stick around.
Force yourself into the game and you quickly become comfortable with the rules.
I feel a very human reaction to the tension. Instead of leaning into it and seeing how great we can be, my focus has been on relieving it! That’s fucking crazy.
Basketball was my sport, you see. Through it I learned lessons that have lasted with me for decades after I finished my official “career.” One in particular sticks in my head today. C Webb came to my high school for a basketball camp the summer before my sophomore year, and shared with us his childhood experience. He talked about the importance of sacrifice for something you love. He talked and I listened. Closely.
The most common thing I hear from people is "we've got all of these stories and we don't know how to share them. I put together a 5 minute video for how your storytelling strategy should begin. Take a peek and let me know what you think. The next phase is coming Monday.
If you haven't yet, go back and read the Wednesday's post where I discuss starting with Simple and Creating Effective.
I want to discuss communication plans using 2 variables, simplicity and effectiveness. I must start by saying that even though it seems all too obvious, there is no causality between the complexity of your communication plan and its effectiveness. Do we agree on that? Good.
For a long time I wondered if I was the guy to bring this thing to the world.
All good stories contain 3 c’s; Context, Choice, and Consequence.
"I’ve got a vision for a world I want to create and how I want to help people, and I’m going to create it. No matter what.”