For a long time I wondered if I was the guy to bring this thing to the world.
Do you believe that we each have a calling on this earth? I do. I mean, I don’t believe we were put on this earth to find true love with that one singular person (even though I got very lucky and I love my wife very much) or to do that super specific type of work. I do believe that life is a series of decisions and coincidences, that every decision that is made leads to another decision, and eventually you find yourself at a point, ready to make another decision. Sometimes, for whatever reason, people find themselves very good at one thing, and they work harder than the rest of us work, and they find themselves at the pinnacle of their profession. These series of decisions, I believe, lead us to the point of doing what it is we were meant to do… barring many other decisions getting in the way.
But I don’t believe we were put on this earth to perform that task, even for those at the height of their profession. I think they found work that they enjoy and for a series of reasons have lifted themselves to the peak of their profession.
I probably fit into about 50% of that statement. I really enjoy what I do, but I’m not working 14 hours a day to be good at it. I’ve stated before on this blog that, with 2 kids under the age of 4 and a wife that I’m crazy about, I’m home for dinner almost every night and I never schedule things on weekends. I sometimes even stay home kind of late in the morning so I can get them dressed and out the door at 7:30am. Adding to all of that family time, I have an hour drive to the office, so that’s 2 hours out of my day that I’m spending in the car. Of course it helps owning a small business, if I don’t have any meetings scheduled, I can work from home, where I often get more done anyhow.
But sometimes, in our culture of busy all of this nonsense about needing to put in 28 hour days in order to live your dream, sometimes makes me feel like I’m not worthy of the work that I’m doing. You hear all of these successful yahoos yelling at you that the only way they got to where they are is through hard work. INCREDIBLY CHALLENGING AND PAINSTAKING HARD WORK.
Well what if I don’t want to waste important years of my life killing myself for a dream? What if I’m knee deep in my dream and it consists of being a great husband, father, friend, and leader? Am I still worthy of bringing my work to the world if I only work 8 hours a day?
A mentor to me once told me that “confidence is about making and keeping promises.” And the 30 day story challenge I embarked on proved that out to me. Like, in real life, I did an experiment and it worked. Crazy right? I made a promise to myself, about something that is very important to me and something I wanted to accomplish, and I kept that promise. Even on the days when it was incredibly difficult. And through that, it gave me confidence in myself and my abilities, and that is feeding into other areas of my life. Now when I talk to someone about our work, I’m talking about it from a worthy perspective. It makes me feel more and more like I’m worthy of bringing this work to the world.